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You've got a target painted on you whether you know it or not. |
Women Are Prime Targets for Internet Predators
(But men can be too!)
If you do social media, there are some things you need to be aware
of. First, you need to know that not everyone on the Internet is who
he says he is. If he seems too good to be true, he likely is. If you are a woman and put your photo on your Facebook or other social media page, you are going to get some attention. Ironically, it’s
not the prettiest girls they go after. Their favorite targets are:
Older women in their 50s and 60s,
especially widows, unhappy wives, or chronically single ladies.
Women who seem concerned about
their looks, especially the ones who Photoshop their pictures a bit.
They find this out by comparing their avatars with other more candid
photos on their social media sites.
Women who are rather plain but not
unpleasant looking.
Women who by their posts seem like they are
attracted to money and power.
American women because everybody knows that you are all rich
and won’t miss $10,000–20,000.
These predators tend not to go after young hot independent sorts
of chicks because those girls don’t need the fantasy. In today’s
loose, sexually charged American culture, such young women tend to
date in person and don’t have to keep telling themselves how good
they look. Drooling post-adolescent males do that for them. If,
however, a girl seems needy or insecure, the piranhas will start
circling. They can smell the blood in the water. That doesn't mean that if you are pretty they won't take a shot at you. I mean we all pick our best looking pictures for our avatars don't we?
How
to Identify Internet Scammers
If you do get a message from a new “friend” who is male and
good looking and apparently well off financially, and he wants to
chat, watch out. Here are a few telltale signs that this sheepdog
is a wolf with a cultured growl and a permanent wave.
New profile with few if any
friends. If he gives a location, it will likely be someplace you've
posted pictures of or wanted to visit, especially if it's a foreign country.
Important military man
picture—usually nothing less than a colonel whose picture they
found on some other website. You can do a search on the name, and
you'll probably find where they got the name and possibly even the
picture. Female scammers post sexually provocative pictures and the conversations will drip with playful innuendo - what we used to call the "come hither."
If you accept their friend
request, they jump right on with a direct message. Lots of flattery at this point complimenting you on how interesting you are or how beautiful.
They tell you they are a widower
with a son, or a well-to-do man whose rotten wife left him or whose
precious wife died and left him with a child, usually a son, but she can also be a daughter. If you are a Christian, he will be too, and he will
ask you for your prayers.
He will likely tell you he doesn't
need money and mention some large amount of monthly salary he earns.
Often, he will own a company, frequently in the oil business. Engineers and other professionals who travel around the world. It gives them cover when they ask you to send that loan to Bahrain or Germany.
In short order, he will fall in
love with you because you are so understanding and beautiful. If you
show any return feelings ...
THEN, he will ask you for money.
It will be for a modest amount at
first to tide him over, just 'til he can get his humongous check
cashed, but there's a problem at the bank, and his child is sick,
and you are the only one who can help because he is all alone in the
world.
If you ask questions, you will get
evasive answers. It will seem as though he is working off a script
because he keeps trying to force you back into a specific line of
conversation. That's because is working from a script.
The quality of his English will drop dramatically if he does
try to answer your more persistent questions. The cagey ones will
pretend they didn't get your questions and try to get you back on
script.
Play with his head if you want, but be very careful. The more real
information he has on you, the more likely you are to be stung. My wife ran one of these yahoos around the rosie bush just to see what was in his script. When she suddenly stopped responding, he went frantic. Wonder what his supervisor did when he found out the kid had dropped such a likely mark?
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Ladies, you are not alone in being romance scammed.
Lonely men can be real suckers for a pretty picture of an eager female. |
Has
This Ever Happened to You?
Where do they come from? You get a message from someone you just friended or who has friended you. They usually come from somewhere overseas where they are harder to track. Beware! The distinguished gentleman you are talking to who says he lives
in Denmark, Ireland, Britain, or Italy, owns an oil company
contracting business in the North Sea, or is a retired military guy or
an English country squire is very likely a 17-year-old Nigerian kid
working out of an Internet Cafe in Oshobogu or some other small
Nigerian town. Internet cafes are a booming business in loosely regulated parts of Africa. Since the invention of the Internet, online scams have become sort of a standard career track for Nigerian
kids who can type in some places. You also get a lot of Russians and
folk from Slavic countries as well. Some Middle-Eastern terrorists also use
these scams as a fundraising trick.
The kids, especially the African ones, are working from a script,
likely with an older person managing him. If he stops talking for a
while, and there's a delay in response, it's likely because his
handler has caught him wandering off-script and endangering the con.
The kid has screwed up, and his handler is probably boxing his ears
and telling him to get you back on script.
What to Do If You Suspect Your "Friend" Is a Fraud
End the
Conversation! The first and most effective thing to do if you smell a rat is to
end the conversation. Stop up the rathole. Don’t respond. The
pleading by this guy for you to write him back will be entertaining once you've twigged to the con. And it will be pathetic, but don't fall for it.
Don't
Feel Bad for the Scammer
Don’t worry about the kid. He might get a beating for blowing
the con, but maybe he’ll decide to go back to school and get out of
the business altogether. Think of it as giving a young person some
great career advice. It’s a terrible business and sinful to boot. And don't feel bad for these kids. Many of them go on to develop
their own criminal organizations specializing in conning people out
of their money. They make a fortune compared to the hard-working folk
they swindle. They often go to great lengths to make people believe
they are legitimate. Sometimes they even fly a particularly fat prize
mark to their country and put them up in hotels in an effort to
convince them they are legit. Once they have the money in hand,
however, the mark gets dumped, and they disappear.
Spread the Word
Finally, one of the best ways to protect yourself and your friends
is to share these tips with people you care about. You’ll be
surprised how many of your friends and family have been targeted by
these schemes. And it’s not just women who get taken in.
These guys have a hundred variants of these romance cons, all tailor-made for every sort of mark. And just
because you are a man doesn’t mean they won’t hit on you. That
long-legged Lithuanian fashion model may just be a chubby little
Albanian part-time pig farmer. Long-legged models are particularly good at taking in lonely guys with this
type of con. Guys may not appear to gall to these cons, but remember that guys are a lot less anxious to talk about being scammed than
women who fall for them. Women get outraged. Men are embarrassed and are not at all motivated to tell anyone. Even if you are one of those guys like me who is fiercely loyal to
his Sweet Baboo and would never ever stray, not even by email, you
need to know these creepy little thieves are out there cruising for
babes, and the next one they hit on might be your wife, your
daughter, or even your mother or grandmother. In the Internet age,
these thieves have got smooth-talking down to a script, and they have
no morals, no consciences, and, if I ever get hold of one, they’ll
be missing something else too!
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This picture was used to convince thousands of women that a 17-year-old
Nigerian kid
was an Army general. If you're going to lie, I guess you
might as well make it a big one.
He later demoted his picture to
sergeant after women noticed the stripes. |
How the Con Works
The kids have a name for these kinds of cons. They call them
“Yahoo” jobs. Want to hazard a guess as to who the “yahoo”
is? Here’s how it works:
The scammer goes on the Internet
to find a likely looking prospect and “friend” them. They trawl
Facebook, other social media, dating websites, and chatrooms looking for
women with two characteristics. (a) They are lonely women. (b) They
have money to spare.
In order to draw you into the scam, once they’ve identified you as a likely candidate, they research
them to find out what they are worth. That's why it's not a good idea to flaunt your wealth on social media. It's catnip to romance artists.
They find out where you are
working and work out what your likely salary is and make an estimate
as to how much you usually have in the bank at any one time. Some of
these kids’ bosses have pretty sophisticated methods of sussing
out your net worth. If charity fund-raisers like me can do it, so
can con artists.
Some of this they discover by
researching your footprint on the Internet. The rest they learn by
getting in tight with their mark (that's you by the way).
Over a series of emails, which
become increasingly steamy especially with female targets, but also with males, the scammer develops
a level of trust. They may even get you on the phone at some point. With women the relationship with their poor orphan child is a major hook. With guys the scammer portrays herself (and she may not be an actual woman) as young and vulnerable and in need of a strong protector.
The scammer develops an attractive
identity, in part by lending a sympathetic ear to the woman’s
trials and troubles. These completely phony Lotharios manage to
glean an incredible amount of personal information from their marks.
The scammer’s false identity necessarily starts out very sketchy but he makes himself appear strong and self-assured. Above all he will seem to get you. That may be because "he" is a woman and in tune with what attracts women. Female cons do the same in reverse to men. They will flatter him that he's the only one who understands her. She'll trigger that protective paternal instinct any way she can.
This mystery scammer becomes more ever
more exciting as they find out more about their female or even male
target. These kids do both genders.
Depending on how the relationship
grows and who the scammer has decided to be, African prince or
ruggedly handsome Danish oil rig contractor (whatever that is) he
will start to deepen the relationship as much as possible. He’s
not going to be specific and will fumble if you press for more info
about his job.
Then comes the favor. He or she declares their love, or if that’s too much, they’ll let slip that they're coming to America from whatever romantic-sounding country they say they live in and, further, they're just dying to see you.
Then something will come up to
hinder those plans. He’ll hint and hem-haw around until, if you
don’t suggest it, he’ll ask for money. His check is delayed. Her bank burned down. He’s covering a margin call on his stock
portfolio, and he just needs a thousand dollars till his Hong Kong
bank opens in a few hours. He’ll try to sound like he doesn’t
need your money, really, but if you could help, it means he can come
to see you sooner. For smaller amounts, she tells you her car is
broken down or she doesn’t have the proper card for the ATMs in
Morocco.
Then, he starts pressuring. “I
love you. I wouldn’t ask, but I know you wouldn’t want me to
miss my flight to the States." or "I'm in much trouble
through no fault of my own. Can you help me, my beloved?" They
can get just that schmaltzy. If it wasn't so pathetic and cruel what
they are doing, it would be laughable.
At this point, he either closes the deal and escapes with
your cash, or he doesn’t, and you also never hear from the con artist again.
If you send them the money, they’ll likely disappear unless they think you are amazingly gullible and that you can be taken for more. One
senior widow handed one of these kids over $800,000 in cash. She was actually surprised when he disappeared with the money which had already been transferred through a dozen phony banks and accounts to heaven only knows where. The next day after you send the money, the target (that’s you)
looks in your inbox for another of his love-struck emails. Meanwhile,
back in Nigeria, he’s having a night on the town with his girls on
your money.
In 2011 alone, the FBI had 30,000 reports of so-called advanced
fee scams and more than 4,000 complaints about romance scams. Just
the reported scams cost victims more than $55 million in just one
year. Many more go unreported. For some reason, Nigeria has about a
fifth of the scam trade. A typical romance scam nets anywhere from
$200 to $12,000 from a single job.
Profits are dwindling, however, as Westerners, especially women,
catch on to the scams and share their sad stories among themselves.
Thousands more romance scams go unreported as lonely folk, humiliated at
having been conned, simply eat their losses and don’t tell anyone.
Really, can you blame them? Who wants to let it be known that you
were romanced and swindled by a 16-year-old kid from Uzbekistan? Men
are even more prone to hide it if they've been taken.
Stick to analog romance, the kind where a bunch of ladies at your church band together to hook you up with some nice guy or girl. The church ladies do a tremendous job of doing background checks on potential matches for lonely singles in their churches. If Miss Margaret or Mrs. Dooley introduce you to some nice girl, she won't be a 17 year-old skinny boy from Kondugu or Bogatyrevo.
This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s
knowledge. Content is for informational or entertainment purposes
only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional
advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters.
